Machiavelli said to commit all the cruelties at once so when I go on Tinder I message all my matches, and then don't go on it for a few days.

Tinder is bad for the soul, but it is the most modern means of romance, and you should not be so regressive as to ignore it entirely. The task is to make the modern world work with you, not to reject it, no matter how sordid it might be. This is the dialectic.